We all want to be free, to feel fulfilled and live the life of our wildest dreams. But every day, we deal with limiting beliefs, fears, and negative thought patterns that keep us from living our best life. However, what we need to remember is that we ALWAYS have the power to break through any obstacles that stand in the way, even when that obstacle is temporary darkness of your own mind also known as depression.
“I don’t believe in magic; I rely on it.”
Through the darkness, the light can rise.
Through the challenge – the power can be uncovered.
This is a story about a girl who lost herself in the darkness of her mind and then rediscovered her light and let it shine bright. This is the story about being free, fulfilled, and living the most amazing life imaginable.
It’s exciting to be “metacognitive” – the fancy word we use to describe thinking about what you are thinking.
The whole buzz about the power of the present is based on this very skill. So here is how it looks in my life.
I was born and raised in Siberia; it’s a cold place with the most warm-hearted people you could ever meet.
Ever since I was a child – everyone would note and be slightly surprised by my innate confidence and never-ending happiness I was emitting day after day after day. I knew with my whole being that life is fantastic and it’s designed so we, humans, can enjoy it to the fullest.
I carried this positive attitude deep into my college years.
With no connections and formal education, I had been landing the most extraordinary opportunities that I could have ever imagined. From becoming a TV host of a business talk show at the age of 18 to presenting to the president of the Russian Federation, to going to EU without a visa. The opportunities that were coming my way were endless, and I was seizing them as fast and as enthusiastically as I could.
But then, a drastic change took place in my life. I had to relocate due to family reasons. And so I left my perfectly planned life in Russia, left all my close friends and favorite people behind, and ended up in San Francisco, a glorious city I knew nothing about.
During the first year, I didn’t have all my documents properly sorted to work freely, and it was a painful experience to sit and not being able to do anything; to have no purpose at all and struggling to even get out of bed in the morning.
I wasn’t ready for that. I didn’t want it, but I fell into a deep depression. One day resembled the next; I was crying in the bathroom, and I listened to sad songs on repeat. Suddenly, I realized that something was wrong. I found myself thinking negatively more often than before, thinking that somehow I was a failure despite the previous successes in life achieved so far.
All of a sudden, I became convinced that I couldn’t build a career of my dreams in the US.
I kept thinking that there will never come a day when I could genuinely understand American culture and find fascinating, like-minded friends. My mind was marinating in negative thinking patterns; I thought I could never break.
The thing that was bringing me down the most was that I had no good life events serendipitously happening for me. And then one day I caught myself thinking that I was living a very ordinary, mediocre life. And to tell you the truth, the last thing I wanted is to settle for ordinary life. Why? Because I believe that every single human being on the face of the Earth is extraordinary, and we all have gifts that can shine and make the world better than we first found it!
To uncover those innate superpowers, some deep inner work should be done first.
How to Live the Life of Your Dreams
One morning I realized that I couldn’t be in this dark state of mind anymore.
I can’t be this depressed, self-isolating, and angry person. It’s not who I was, and it’s not who I wanted to be.
I have to admit; I was embarrassed to tell my husband or my parents that I was not okay and needed help.
Luckily for me, my mother is a practicing medical doctor, and she always taught me to dig deeper and search for a root cause of an imbalance rather than just treating the symptoms. And the hit-parade of my symptoms included this utter disbelief in my abilities, feeling of profound inadequacy, never-ending negative self-talk, and lack of synchronicity.
And so right then I decided to learn how the brain works because it’s the main organ which is responsible for producing emotions.
I enrolled and completed a cognitive neuroscience extension program at Stanford University and participated in in-depth programs by Dr. Joe Dispenza, Tony Robbins, and other much-respected self-help professionals.
I practiced every single tool that I encountered and had in the box. And it worked. I erased depression and now am back on track with serendipity, synchronicity, and harmony with this world, no matter what life brings next.
The in-depth knowledge about the inner working of our mind (backed by scientific research) and the real-life experience changed everything.
A couple of years into this deep work, I saw real results in my life:
- My career leveled up; I got countless unique offers from very accomplished people from around the world
- I got randomly invited to do public speaking at the coolest Silicon Valley companies
- Serendipitously met extraordinary people that I’m so honored to now call my friends
- Hosting events around the world and even appearing on TV shows to mention a few
I know what it’s like to feel hopeless, I also know how to erase depression, get out from the darkness and lead the best life possible; I intend to help as many people as I can.
Many people who knew me ever since I moved to the US saw me grow exponentially and started to get more curious and asked how am I doing this. This is why I decided to put together all tools in a 35-day online program “The Dream Sprint,” which is designed to help you create a life you desire, get crystal clear on your dreams and see them unfold in reality. I host it live every two months. It’s accountability-based – so you need to do the work to move ahead.
Originally published on havingtime.com
About the Author
Daria Tsvenger is a mindset expert and host of the personal growth accountability program “Dream Sprint” which has helped hundreds of people tap into the power of the brain to gain clarity and move from stagnation to action.
She has inspired hundreds of people on stages all over the world for clients including Robinhood and MGM Law. She has also shared her expertise on science-based personal development on TV Shows such as “Good Morning LA-LA-LAND” and “Simulation” while having a loyal following of over 20,000 people.
Daria completed a Cognitive Neuroscience Stanford University extension program and had a chance to learn from top experts like Dr. Joe Dispenza, Marisa Peer, Dr. David Eagleman, Tony Robbins, and Dr. Loretta Breuning. Learn more at
www.dariatsvenger.com and thedreamsprint.com