To get what you WANT, you have to AIM FOR IT.

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This year – instead of focusing on resolutions, what if you focused on routines?  When you line your goals up with your behavior, your goals will be yours.  While that’s simple to understand, it can be a very difficult thing to do because you have to define what you want, and do the hard work of upgrading your habits. 

First thing’s first … what do you want?

It takes a great deal of courage to answer that question.  Giving voice to your most cherished desires can make you feel unsure of yourself, but ignoring your aspirations bleeds your energy dry and sets you up for dissatisfaction and disappointment.

There comes a time in every woman’s life when she needs to decide what she wants, and whether or not she’s going to go for her goals.  If you’re reading these words right now, you’ve reached that choice point.  Don’t panic.  I’m not going to ask you to stretch so far you don’t recognize yourself, but I do want you to stretch.  This blog will help you figure out what you want, set some goals, and take control of your focus.

You probably haven’t given much thought to your focus, but it’s one of your most critical success tools.  The way you direct it dictates how you spend time, determines how you feel, impacts your thinking, and shapes your behavior.  Happily, your brain is wired for focus.  You just have to give it some coordinates.

There’s something in your brain called the reticular activating system (RAS), which controls what you notice, and helps you laser in on your goals.  It works like this.  At any given moment, there’s more information available to you than you can process.

Your RAS acts like a filter that scans your environment and serves up the information you’ve deemed important.  When you set clear objectives this system helps you identify resources that move you closer to the life you’ve envisioned.

You already have experience with your RAS. Think about the last time you planned to buy a new car. Were you surprised when you started seeing that make and model everywhere once you’d decided on it?

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