If you’re human, you’ve probably been stuck a time or two. In fact, if you’re reading this, there’s a good bet you’re stuck on something right now. (If that’s the case, please keep reading. I can help.)
Being stuck is exhausting, because even though you’re not actually getting anywhere, you’re in constant emotional motion. You see, stuck comes with it’s own playlist of dark feelings.
In the beginning, you might be frustrated, impatient, or indignant. Eventually, after fighting stuck for a while, you transition to feeling angry, sad, and possibly even hopeless.
Stuck-ness involves struggle and repetition. Maybe you’re having the same argument over and over again with your spouse (or boss, or parent, or child) where you talk the problem to death, but you can’t seem to solve it. Or the same kind of person could be showing up in in your life again and again, derailing you with their drama and distraction.
You could be in the worst of stuck, where you’ve fallen into a self-defeating pattern. This is the stuck where you’re doing something that isn’t good for you (or your life). You know your behavior is in conflict with what you say you want. You know it’s not good for you. But you keep doing it anyway.
Maybe you’re spending money you don’t have, or you’re procrastinating and avoiding doing what needs to be done to move your life forward. You could be self-harming. Maybe you’re drinking or popping a pill to numb out, pounding bags of Doritos to comfort yourself, or confusing sex with love (and therefore having quite a lot of it).