Welcome back to the Remodel Your Reality Challenge! The truth you hold about people governs your interaction with them. Do you believe people are kind, or do you think they’ll hurt you? Do you have specific beliefs about men, women, or people of a certain race or culture?

The authenticity within you knows that people do the best they can with what they know. She believes in the goodness and equality of people and knows we’re all connected and looking for the same things in life—love, acceptance, fulfillment, meaning, comfort, and a sense of purpose.

However, there is another part of you, based in fear, that distrusts people’s motives and encourages you to protect yourself from getting too close to others. She causes you to question those who look or think differently from you and invites you to separate yourself from others, focusing on your differences rather than your commonality.

One Thing To Think About

When you believe in the goodness of people, you open yourself to true intimacy. When you allow fear to reside over your beliefs, you’ll likely invest your emotional energy in protecting yourself. It’s very difficult to develop and nurture a genuine bond when part of you is posturing for safety. Ultimately, this undermines your ability to meet your need for connection and leads to feelings of isolation and loneliness.

One Question To Answer

Which of these two influences – trust or distrust of other people – will you allow to dictate your reality?

One Challenge To Take

  1. Identify one empowering belief you have about people.
  2. How has that belief served you in your life and work?
  3. Now, identify one disempowering belief you have about people.
  4. For each belief, ask yourself the following:
  • Identify it – Write the belief down.
  • Define it – What is supporting this belief? What experiences are you using to prove the belief?
  • Disprove it – Are your proof points really valid? What else could they mean?
  • Shift it – How could you improve upon this need, so that it serves you? What proof points could you use to support it?

Until next time, take care!

Kim

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