How much peace do you have in your life?
I’ve been a life coach focused on women’s empowerment for more than a decade now. The thing most of my clients are ultimately seeking is peace. Peace is a feeling of tranquility. It’s a deep breath. It’s a knowing that everything is going to be okay – that you are going to be okay.
I have good news and bad news.
The good news is that the degree of peace you have in your life is entirely up to you. The bad news is that the degree of peace you have in your life is entirely up to you.
In other words, you can experience peace in your life every day, but you’re probably going to need to change your perspective – and your behavior – to have it.
In this week’s video coaching session, we’ll walk through 3 simple steps to help you cultivate more peace in your life.
Step 1 – Be peaceful.
If you want peace, be peaceful. #GetYourGrooveBack
How easy is it to offend you? When you enter a new situation are you looking for what’s right or what’s wrong? The thing about life is that you typically find what you look for.
If you’re searching for problems, you’ll find them. If you’re spoiling for a fight, you can bet you’re going to get one (even if it’s just an argument you play out in your own mind).
The way you engage with life matters, and it dictates just how much peace you get to enjoy. This week, notice how you’re showing up. Make sure you’re bringing the peace.
Step 2 – Mind your own business.
This is simple. Yet it’s profoundly difficult to do.
The way other people live their lives really isn’t any of your business.
It’s not your business who they date, how they met the person they’re dating, how they dress, what they eat, if they drink, or what the quality of their choices are. This is true even if the people in question are your adult children, family members, or close colleagues.
If you are not raising an underage child, and the physical well being of the individuals in question is not threatened – BUTT OUT.
The only time this rule does not apply is when the behavior in question is impacting you. Then, and only then, you have the right to set boundaries. You do not have the right to control the behavior of others. You control you. Period.
Peace will be yours when you stop worrying about how other people live their lives. This week, when you catch yourself focused on someone else’s business, pause, breathe, and mind your own business.
Step 3 – What other people think of you is not your business.
Everyone wants to be accepted. We all want to be liked and approved of. But the truth of the matter is that some people are not going to like you. You are not going to please everyone. It’s just not possible.
How much time do you spend worrying what other people think about you, or pretending to be something you aren’t in an attempt to make people like you? I’ve seen so many talented people waste their life force worrying about the opinions of others. You deserve so much better than that!
You are awesome. And you are flawed. And that’s okay, because we all are. #GetYourGrooveBack
The secret to mastering this step is to develop a self-connection. The more you know, like and trust you the less dependent you will be on the opinions of others. It’s not that they won’t matter. I think they always do a little bit. It’s just that they won’t define or defeat you. And that is where you’ll find your power.
When you find yourself worrying about what someone else is thinking about you, turn your attention to what’s going on in your head and heart. How are you doing? What’s amazing in your life right now? What’s not? What do you want instead?
You are one smart cookie. When you stop looking outside of you for validation, and instead start exploring what’s within, peace will be yours for real.
Give this week’s coaching tools a test drive, and let me know how it goes! Comment in the comments section below. I love connecting with you!
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You Got This!