You are command central for your life. Your family, co-workers and community depend on you, and you deliver. You used to function like Superwoman. You could handle all incoming. No problem. But something has changed. You seem to be more easily overwhelmed and frustrated, and you’re a little bit irritated that everything falls on you.
I’ve been working as a life coach focused on women’s empowerment for more than a decade. I’m also a 45-year-old woman, managing this mid-life transition thing myself.
What I’ve seen time and time again is that even the most on-top-of-it woman reaches a point in her life somewhere in her 30s, 40s, or 50s where she hits a wall. The wall has to do with mid-life, and the many physical and emotional challenges that accompany this phase of life.
One such challenge has to do with everything you’re managing and how you’re managing it. You simply cannot continue to operate full steam ahead, being everything to everyone in this next phase of your life. You can’t. And if you insist on trying, your frustration will turn into anger. That anger will eventually become a seething resentment that (at best) steals your joy and (at worst) makes you sick.
You are so much better than that.
I want better for you, and you can have it. In fact, my entire reason for writing this blog is to make sure you have at least one place you can turn to for practical advice to navigate the changes you’re going through.
What I know for sure is that the better you get at managing your life today the more certain it is that you’ll have the ability to create the life of your dreams tomorrow.
So this week in our video coaching session I’m going to teach you how to be the most productive person you know. We’ll do it in 3 steps. (Press PLAY already. You’re life is worth it!)
- Step 1: Narrow your focus.
You might have been able to be everything to everyone in the first few decades of your life. This is not sustainable behavior. You have limited time, attention, and energy available to you each day. You need to become much more discerning about how you dole those resources out.
- Step 2: Choose your battles.
Speaking of attention, where is yours? Do you get caught up in petty stuff that doesn’t matter? Are you holding imaginary conversations in your head, saying things you wish you could say in your outside voice? Are you solving problems that have nothing to do with the goals you’ve set for yourself? Are you wasting your energy on drama? Your attention is a finite commodity. You must stop giving it to stupid shit. ☺
- Step 3: Post. Play. Pay attention.
If half of success is showing up (and I believe it is) the other 50% involves engaging and paying attention. It’s not enough to get your body somewhere. Your mind and heart need to be there too. Finally, I want you to start paying attention to whether or not what you’re doing is working. Is your approach getting you what you want? Awesome. Keep doing what you’re doing. Not so much? No worries. Adjust your process. You’ll get there.
Give yourself 5 minutes to dive into this week’s video for more detail on these strategies, and please give them a test drive. Let me know how it goes. Comment in the comments section below. I respond to everything personally, and I love hearing from you. If you want to connect daily, head over to Facebook or Instagram and join the conversation.
You are so strong and so capable. I know life can feel scary sometimes, especially when it feels like you are changing. You don’t have to do this alone. If you haven’t already, please join my community. Enter your email at www.kimfulcher.com and I’ll send you a weekly coaching blog and video every Wednesday.
I have a feeling you’re going to surprise yourself with your awesomeness.
You Got This!