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Kimberly Fulcher

Tired of self-sabotage? How to get out of your own way.

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You messed up.

Again.

You broke your promise, and let yourself down. Now you’re hanging your head in shame, hating on yourself, and obsessing about your problem.

Stop it.

Pick your head up. No more obsessing, and no more saying mean stuff to yourself. That’s not going to help anything. You’re not a screw-up, and you’re not destined to fail.

There’s nothing wrong with you.

But there could be something wrong with the way you’re doing your life.

If you keep getting in your own way, creating your own problems, or stopping yourself just before you succeed, this blog’s for you.

I’ve been working as a life coach for more than a decade. I’m in business because most people need to change something. (This human thing is not for sissies.) One of the most maddening problems I help clients overcome is self-sabotage.

  • You’re up for a promotion. It hinges on an important presentation. You don’t know why, but you procrastinate until the last minute. You end up doing a mediocre job on it. Bye-bye promotion.
  • You’re beginning to feel really close to someone special. Out of nowhere, you start a fight over something trivial. See ya closeness.
  • You’re at an important event. These are new peers, and you want to make a good impression. Somehow one too many drinks get into your hand (and down your hatch.) You get super drunk, and make a fool of yourself. Good impression made? Yeah, not so much.

Recognize yourself? Me too. In fact, every one of these examples is from my own life. ☺

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How to make a change that sticks.

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By now, it’s possible you’ve broken your new year’s resolution. Or perhaps you’re still on the program, but gutting it out. (While using a great deal of willpower.)

What would you say if I asked you to consider not making any resolutions this year? What if you made real change instead? If I could show you how to make life changes that stick, would you be interested?

I can. ☺

Real change happens when you connect to the big picture of your life, and line your actions up with the outcomes you’re seeking. Change that sticks requires you to upgrade the way you’re doing things. (I know. Yuck. Work for you.) On the bright side, you’re in charge.

Aren’t you tired of saying you’re going to change a thing, and then resisting the changing of that thing? Doesn’t it feel like you’re running around in emotional circles? (You are.) Aren’t you ready to step off this particular treadmill? You can.

You can make any change you’re seeking, but you’re going to need to work for it. I’ll show you how to make a change that sticks in this week’s episode of GrooveTV. We’ll do it in 3 simple steps. Press PLAY already. You’re new life is waiting. Read More

How to figure out forgiveness.

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You are powerful. You may not feel that way right now, but I promise it’s true. You can make big stuff happen. You can build a life that thrills you. You can breathe life into your wildest dreams. But first you’re gonna have to clean some stuff up. Dark stuff.

You’re plugged into a giant pile of grievances, resentments, and grudges. You think about your disappointments and frustrations. A lot. You talk about them. All of the time.

It’s just you and me here, let’s be honest. You’re distracted and obsessing about an inventory of toxic emotional baggage, and it’s making you miserable. It’s also draining your life force. Seriously, aren’t you TIRED?

The life of your dreams requires your full power. There’s no spare fuel for emotional baggage. If you want to rise you have to put those bags down.

Then you need unpack them, look at what’s in them and deal with every last item until none of it sucks your time, energy or attention. (You have WAY better things to do.)

Know this. You’re not alone. Everyone has baggage. It’s not possible to get through life without some. Human beings are mightily flawed. We make mistakes. We hurt each other. At some point in life, everyone has to learn how to forgive. Read More

Got the disease to please? How to heal it once and for all.

By | Get Your Groove Back, Set Boundaries | 12 Comments

I’m a bitch.

At least that’s what I was told recently.

It was an uncomfortable encounter, and frankly one that surprised me. I didn’t know this man. We had an encounter in a parking lot that led to a disagreement. I voiced my opinion and stood my ground. He didn’t like it.


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At times, strong women also make other women, who perhaps haven’t found their courage yet, uncomfortable. (If you’re in this camp don’t worry. Your courage will wait for you for as long as you need it to). ☺

When people are mad or uncomfortable, they do something called leveling. In leveling the person you’re interacting with needs to diminish you in order to feel okay about them. A typical way to accomplish this is through name-calling. Read More

Hating life? Why you’re unhappy and how to get through it.

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I know your secret.

You’re disappointed with your life.

You feel guilty to admit it. You have so much to be thankful for. You know it, but your world does not look like you thought it would. You are not who you imagined the grown-up version of yourself to be.

Truth be told, you didn’t realize life was going to be this hard. You’ve been beaten up a bit, let down, even disillusioned. You have so many responsibilities. You spend most of your time focused on making it through each day.

You put on your happy face and pretend everything’s okay, but deep down you know it’s not. You feel off. You just don’t know what to do about it.

Sound familiar?

If so, know that you don’t have to accept things the way they are. You can change your circumstances. I’m here to help you do it.

I’ve been working as a life coach focused on women’s empowerment and mid-life transitions for more than a decade. I’ve had the opportunity to work with clients from all walks of life. Thousands of hours of interacting with people has taught me that we all tend to struggle with similar problems. Read More

How To Get What You Want

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What do you want?

If I could help you get it, would you keep reading? I can! Keep reading. ☺

In my work as a life coach I’ve had the opportunity to work with thousands of amazing women. Us girls have so much in common. We stumble over many of the same obstacles. Going for what we want is one of them.

Somewhere along the way (very likely when you were young and tender) someone taught you that it was selfish for you to want. They were wrong.

It’s not selfish to want. It’s a natural drive. It’s human to hunger. In fact, the more appetite you have for life, the more interesting it will be. I want you to get ravenous, and become a master at getting what you want.

To get started, please allow these words to serve as official permission to start wanting. You deserve good things. You getting does not reduce another person’s ability to get. In fact, you getting helps you to give more.

Happily, the formula for getting what you want is super simple. We’ll cover it in this week’s video coaching session. Press PLAY already, and let the getting begin. ☺ Read More

Find your life purpose. Here’s how.

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What were you born for? Why are you here? Is there a purpose to your life?

You’d better believe it.

You were born with unique gifts and talents. As individual as your fingerprints, your spiritual DNA was created for impact. Success and achievement can’t fill the hole that purpose was designed to fit. Until you’re living yours, no matter what else you accomplish, you’ll feel like something’s missing. Because it is.

I used to have a gaping hole where my purpose should have been. It was seriously ginormous. It made me hustle and hide. I bulldozed and achieved, all the while keeping my finger on the pulse of which me needed to show up for whatever situation I happened to find myself in.

I accomplished a lot, and my masks looked pretty good to the casual observer. I had all the bright shiny boxes that society says matter checked. And I was still dissatisfied. None of it was enough.

My emptiness was tugging at me, begging me to slow down, look and listen. I wasn’t interested in disrupting my neat little world, so I ignored the invitation. Until it wasn’t possible to ignore it any longer.

Eventually life served up some major wake-up-you-dumb-shit lessons. There is a rule about lessons related to your life purpose. They start gently. Just enough to get your attention. If you don’t give your attention, they get harder. Until you do. Read More

Why you don’t have what you want, and how to get it.

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Do you ever catch yourself scrolling through social media feeling a little bit jealous?

Susie has an amazing family. Josh is killing it at work. Lisa and George just bought a new house. Kayla is so fit, and look at Tina’s gorgeous family.

It’s not that you aren’t happy for them. You are happy for them. It’s just that you want a little bit of what they have (or what you think they have). You wonder why they have what you don’t. What’s so special about them?

Are they more educated or talented than you? Did they have more advantages in their childhood? Possibly, but that’s not the reason they have something you don’t. That’s because they’re doing things you’re not doing.

I’ve been working as a life coach focused on women’s empowerment for more than a decade. My job is to help my clients get what they want. I do it by working three steps with them.

These three steps can help you create almost any result you want in your life. In this week’s video coaching session we’ll walk through them together. Press PLAY already. Aren’t you tired of wanting? Read More

How to tame your stress when you’re ready to lose your s***

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I could feel my irritation escalating.

I was on hold with the utility company.

I was also behind on an important deadline, and I had work to do. My Internet connection had just stopped working for the third time that day. It was a chronic problem, and I was out of patience.

I didn’t have time for this. I was juggling multiple projects, back-to-back meetings, weekly travel, and 300 emails a day. (And that was just my job.) I wasn’t stressed. I was a stress ball.

And then it happened.

The operator came back onto the line, and told me I’d need to be transferred to another department. I was three transfers and twenty minutes into the call already. It was the last straw.

I LOST MY SHIT.

It was ugly, and I was not nice – or polite or professional or any other appropriate descriptor. I was a raving maniac, and when I hung up all I’d accomplished was yelling at some poor customer service agent.

You’ve been there, right? You’re juggling so many balls you feel as if you’ll lose your mind. Push comes to shove, your very own final straw shows up, and you tumble over the edge. Read More

Got problems? How to solve them for real.

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If you’re breathing, you’ve got problems. They’re part of the human experience, and while they’re not a lot of fun to deal with, they’re actually designed to strengthen you. Every time you deal with a problem you have the chance to take a little piece of your power back from wherever its been lent.

What a concept, right? Your problems are for your empowerment!

I’ve been working as a women’s life coach for more than a decade. Over the years, clients have sought my coaching for major life problems like divorce, infidelity, job loss, health crisis, or the loss of a loved. These are problems that rock your foundation. They require you to look at your life (and your self) in a new way.

What’s surprising, yet true in my experience, is that seemingly smaller problems can cause an equal (though less dramatic) amount of emotional pain and suffering.
Issues like relationship problems, financial struggles, job dissatisfaction, and stage-of-life transitions (like dealing with mid-life or empty nesting) can upset your equilibrium and steal your joy.

Whatever the nature of your problem, you can solve it. Read More