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Kimberly Fulcher

Got problems? How to solve them for real.

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If you’re breathing, you’ve got problems. They’re part of the human experience, and while they’re not a lot of fun to deal with, they’re actually designed to strengthen you. Every time you deal with a problem you have the chance to take a little piece of your power back from wherever its been lent.

What a concept, right? Your problems are for your empowerment!

I’ve been working as a women’s life coach for more than a decade. Over the years, clients have sought my coaching for major life problems like divorce, infidelity, job loss, health crisis, or the loss of a loved. These are problems that rock your foundation. They require you to look at your life (and your self) in a new way.

What’s surprising, yet true in my experience, is that seemingly smaller problems can cause an equal (though less dramatic) amount of emotional pain and suffering.
Issues like relationship problems, financial struggles, job dissatisfaction, and stage-of-life transitions (like dealing with mid-life or empty nesting) can upset your equilibrium and steal your joy.

Whatever the nature of your problem, you can solve it. Read More

How to have more peace in your life.

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How much peace do you have in your life?

I’ve been a life coach focused on women’s empowerment for more than a decade now. The thing most of my clients are ultimately seeking is peace. Peace is a feeling of tranquility. It’s a deep breath. It’s a knowing that everything is going to be okay – that you are going to be okay.

I have good news and bad news.

The good news is that the degree of peace you have in your life is entirely up to you. The bad news is that the degree of peace you have in your life is entirely up to you.

In other words, you can experience peace in your life every day, but you’re probably going to need to change your perspective – and your behavior – to have it.

In this week’s video coaching session, we’ll walk through 3 simple steps to help you cultivate more peace in your life. Read More

How To Be Most Productive Person You Know

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You are command central for your life. Your family, co-workers and community depend on you, and you deliver. You used to function like Superwoman. You could handle all incoming. No problem. But something has changed. You seem to be more easily overwhelmed and frustrated, and you’re a little bit irritated that everything falls on you.

Sound familiar?

I’ve been working as a life coach focused on women’s empowerment for more than a decade. I’m also a 45-year-old woman, managing this mid-life transition thing myself.

What I’ve seen time and time again is that even the most on-top-of-it woman reaches a point in her life somewhere in her 30s, 40s, or 50s where she hits a wall. The wall has to do with mid-life, and the many physical and emotional challenges that accompany this phase of life.

One such challenge has to do with everything you’re managing and how you’re managing it. You simply cannot continue to operate full steam ahead, being everything to everyone in this next phase of your life. You can’t. And if you insist on trying, your frustration will turn into anger. That anger will eventually become a seething resentment that (at best) steals your joy and (at worst) makes you sick.

You are so much better than that.

I want better for you, and you can have it. In fact, my entire reason for writing this blog is to make sure you have at least one place you can turn to for practical advice to navigate the changes you’re going through.

What I know for sure is that the better you get at managing your life today the more certain it is that you’ll have the ability to create the life of your dreams tomorrow.

So this week in our video coaching session I’m going to teach you how to be the most productive person you know. We’ll do it in 3 steps. (Press PLAY already. You’re life is worth it!)

  • Step 1: Narrow your focus.
    You might have been able to be everything to everyone in the first few decades of your life. This is not sustainable behavior. You have limited time, attention, and energy available to you each day. You need to become much more discerning about how you dole those resources out.
  • Step 2: Choose your battles.
    Speaking of attention, where is yours? Do you get caught up in petty stuff that doesn’t matter? Are you holding imaginary conversations in your head, saying things you wish you could say in your outside voice? Are you solving problems that have nothing to do with the goals you’ve set for yourself? Are you wasting your energy on drama? Your attention is a finite commodity. You must stop giving it to stupid shit. ☺
  • Step 3: Post. Play. Pay attention.
    If half of success is showing up (and I believe it is) the other 50% involves engaging and paying attention. It’s not enough to get your body somewhere. Your mind and heart need to be there too. Finally, I want you to start paying attention to whether or not what you’re doing is working. Is your approach getting you what you want? Awesome. Keep doing what you’re doing. Not so much? No worries. Adjust your process. You’ll get there.

Give yourself 5 minutes to dive into this week’s video for more detail on these strategies, and please give them a test drive. Let me know how it goes. Comment in the comments section below. I respond to everything personally, and I love hearing from you. If you want to connect daily, head over to Facebook or Instagram and join the conversation.

You are so strong and so capable. I know life can feel scary sometimes, especially when it feels like you are changing. You don’t have to do this alone. If you haven’t already, please join my community. Enter your email at www.kimfulcher.com and I’ll send you a weekly coaching blog and video every Wednesday.

I have a feeling you’re going to surprise yourself with your awesomeness.

You Got This!

XO

Kim

How To Make Your Weirdness Work For You

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I’m weird. I always have been. Different. Not like everyone else. I have my own unique ideas and interests. I learned to hide that weirdness at a very early age. We moved a lot when I was a kid. And when I say a lot I mean about every 2 years. I attended 8 schools by the time I was a senior in high school.

Kids can be tough. When you’re the new kid you learn to put on whatever mask is required for you to fit in, and boy did I cultivate a few masks! My desire to be accepted was stronger than my desire to be myself. So I stopped acting like me. Little by little I began to deny all of the parts of myself that I feared were unacceptable. Eventually, I forgot they were even there.

I was in my late 30’s when it hit me that I’d been pretending, wearing masks, and hustling for acceptance for decades. I was tired of it. So I decided to stop. Read More

Get Motivated – 3 Steps to Unleash Your Mojo

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Are you bored, unmotivated, and even a little bit skeptical that you can have what you want in your life?

Are you dreaming of something that you haven’t summoned up the mojo to go for?

Have you been trying to lose the last X pounds for a decade or more?

Are you using willpower to get yourself to a job you hate, or walking through your life like a zombie just making it through each day?

If you answered yes to any of these questions – this blog’s for you.

Where did your oomph go? If you were a motivated person at one time you mourn the loss of this superpower. If you’ve never been motivated, you’re pretty sure you were born without that chromosome. In fact, you’re sort of annoyed by motivated people. Read More

How To Say No Like You Mean It

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Do you have it? Symptoms include feelings of overwhelm, resentment, anxiety and failure. If you’re afflicted you’re probably also chronically tired. The cherry on top of this unhappy sundae includes short episodes of you losing your s**t, usually about once a month. What’s going on? What are you so angry about anyway?

You think these surprising emotional episodes are about your hormones, but while hormones play a part, they are not the answer. Your hormonal cycle provides you with an important window every month. This window usually lasts between 1-3 days.

It is a point-in- time where you simply cannot tolerate the bull you normally put up with, so you blow. This window should not be feared. It should be welcomed and studied. It will show you every place in your life where you have to stop saying yes when you mean no. Read More

See Ya Self Doubt – How to Start Believing in You

By Get Your Groove Back, Set Boundaries 4 Comments

I know your secret.

You doubt yourself.

All. The. Time.

You think doubt stops you from going for your dreams, and it does. But that’s not all it does. Doubt rides co-pilot with you all day long. It stops you before you speak up in meetings. It muzzles you before you ask for what you want. It shuts you down at the first hint of excitement. It silences you. It makes you anxious. It keeps you small.

Doubt BITES.

Aren’t you over it yet? I am! In fact I’m so over it for you that today I’m going to show you how to stop doubting on yourself once and for all. Read More

How To Be Happy Right Now

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How To Be Happy Right Now

We all want to be happy. In this busy world we live in, that can seem easier said than done. I have good news for you though. Happiness is pretty straightforward. In fact, the secret to happiness is no secret at all, and I’m going to teach you how to harness it in 3 simple steps.

  • Step 1 – Make PROGRESS toward a goal that matters to you.
  • Step 2 – You’ve got to GROW. You need to be learning and challenging yourself.
  • Step 3 – You need to be CONTRIBUTING. You need to make a difference. You need to do good work. I’m not talking about a 9 to 5 job here. I’m talking about having an intention to contribute in every role you play in your life, whether that is as a mom, a family member, or a career professional. This is about realizing you make a difference, and showing up every day to make one on purpose.

Join me in this week’s video coaching session, and we’ll walk through these steps together. I also have a bonus for you! We’re going to bust the Myth of Happiness right open, so you can be happy right in the here-and- now.

No matter what is going on in your life, you deserve to be happy. When you begin to focus on these three fundamentals, you will be blown away by how much joy you’re able to experience on a daily basis – even when you’re dealing with tough stuff.

Once you’ve had a chance to watch, I’d love to hear from you! What are you committed to change? How can you use today’s coaching tips in your life? If you’re not already subscribed, please join my community, and I’ll send your weekly video coaching session right to your in-box every Wednesday. Join the community at www.kimfulcher.com. Finally, if you know a sister who could use some encouragement, please share this blog with your friends! We all need a little love and support every now and then. Pass it on.

Tell me what you’re thinking and remember…

You got this!

XO

Kim

3 Steps To Change Anything

By Get Your Groove Back 8 Comments

Life didn’t turn out the way you thought it would, did it? Maybe you’re dealing with difficult circumstances or reeling from a major shake-up. It’s possible you feel disappointed because the reality of your life is so far from what your dreams used to look like. And if that’s true you also feel guilty because it’s not like your life is bad.

It’s. Just. Not. Good. Read More

Week Forty Eight – The Tenets of Personal Effectiveness: Adjust to Change

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Welcome back to the Remodel Your Reality Challenge! Life is change. Nothing is static. And for many people, this reality puts them into a tailspin. Why? Because we all crave security and predictability – the one thing life is not set up to provide. When you experience change, it is normal for you to react to the possibility of losing that essence. Most of the time, reactions of this nature are based on fear and angst.

Effective people accept the inevitability of change and consciously decide how they will embrace and manage it when it arrives. The key is to identify the essential quality that you value within a specific action or experience – it’s essence – and to incorporate those qualities into the changing conditions you’re dealing with. For example, if you crave conversation and connection, and losing a job has left you feeling isolated from other people, you might consider addressing that need by broadening your social life or volunteering with a non-profit.

One Thing To Think About

Just because change may close off one route to get something you want or need, doesn’t mean you can’t still have it. Determine what the essence of that want or need is, and find alternative ways to achieve those same results.

just because change

One Question To Answer

Does your typical response to change come from a position of strength, flexibility and opportunity-seeking, or fear, loss and anger?

One Challenge To Take

Answer the following questions:

  1. What is your typical response to change?
  2. Think about something in your life that is in the midst of change or that will change very soon. What is the essence of the circumstances that have changed or are about to be modified? How does that essence serve you?
  3. What could you do to incorporate this essence in a way that serves you in the new situation you’re dealing with?
  4. Based on what you’ve discovered, what actions must you take to successfully adjust to change?

Until next time, take care!

Kim